LOVE AND VIBES - BDSM Bedroom Restraint Set

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And we want to hear from you, too! As part of our podcast we’ll be sharing listeners’ experiences, thoughts and questions on a different theme every week. Impact play involving spanking, flogging, whipping or paddling is a great entry point for BDSM play and features highly on the kink hot list. If you've never enjoyed a good spanking you'll be reassured to hear that if you target the fleshy bits, it doesn't have to hurt and the vibrations can elicit a tantalising range of physical and emotional responses to boot. Bend over baby. If you’re one of those interested parties who has never done it before, you might want to start with smaller toys first and talking with your partner about the possibility of douching. Sensation play

ICYDK, bondage is a form of intimate and/or sexual play that involves consensually restraining or tying up someone for the sake of pleasure. The ‘B’ in BDSM, bondage is a way for people to explore giving up or taking power, add an element of ~spice~ to their sex lives, and introduce a new flavor of intimacy into their interpersonal relationships, says Elle Chase, CSE, ACS, a certified sex educator and author of Curvy Girl Sex: 101 Body-Positive Positions To Empower Your Sex Life. “Incorporating consensual bondage into sex play builds and fortifies essential trust between partners,” she explains, as it “requires that communication be deft and clear.” For this reason, bondage play is recommended for partners looking to improve their communication. Apart from the bonding aspect, some people just simply like to be tied up because it turns them on. “The beautiful paradox of bondage is that many people feel sexually freer when they are tied up,” says Gloria Brame, PhD, a certified sexologist and BDSM expert based in Athens, Georgia. “They have no choice but to submit to the wonderful sensations they can experience in a bottom role.” How do I practice bondage safely? 1. Do your own research. These materials are geared more towards experienced floggers due to how strong the impact can be. Not only that, but it takes a certain technique to use these types of floggers, and for that reason, should not be used by beginners who haven’t had any practice.

When we talk about dominance and submission in BDSM, we're talking about consensual power exchange: That means that even if a submissive partner is tied up and allowing the dominant partner to dictate what happens in a scene, the terms have been discussed and agreed upon by all partners beforehand. In fact, the sub can even be thought of as the one in control, since it's the dominant partner's responsibility to always respect their limits. Before trying anything new, talk it over with your partner to make sure you're both into whatever's about to go down. You may be interested in choosing a safe word that stops play if needed. Learning your turn-ons and boundaries (and your partner's) is all part of the fun of BDSM, and discussing your encounter before it happens can be its own anticipation-building form of foreplay. 2. Try out some dirty talk. I like to call it ‘power play’ because, to me, that is at the heart of BDSM,” says sex expert Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT, a licensed psychotherapist, sexuality counselor, and author of She Comes First. “You’re able to use your imagination, create a scene, role play, and tap into themes that are interesting, like submission and domination.” Rehor, J. E., et al. (2015). Sensual, erotic, and sexual behaviors of women from the “kink” community.

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/308575318_Consensual_BDSM_Facilitates_Role-Specific_Altered_States_of_Consciousness_A_Preliminary_Study Keen to give kink a try? The key to exploring your kinky side starts with open, honest communication and fun! So sit down and talk about what turns you on with your other half before you get started. Discussing your sexual desires with a trusted partner can also serve as foreplay and be seriously steamy. So talk about it, plan what you hope to explore together and enjoy the ride! As long as you're all consenting adults, anything goes and the world is your rubber lobster: 1. Sensory deprivation For some, it takes a bit of experimenting to decide whether they’re more dominant or submissive. Once your roles have been established, you can start playing around with a few activities. Understanding what the Dom/sub dynamic is, how it functions, and how to negotiate around it in your own relationship(s) is key to creating the kinky sex life of your dreams. It is the base layer. It is the fundamental configuration of role play. Botta, D., et al.(2019). Are role and gender related to sexual function and satisfaction in men and women practicing BDSM? [Abstract].The conversation you have after the experience is just as much a part of sex as the acts themselves,” says Richmond. This conversation is a chance to debrief by asking your partner(s) about what they enjoyed most and what they were thinking when you, say, lightly spanked them. Dominance and submission can be emotional, physical, or both, and the dynamic can be played out in sexual acts—or through acts of being in control/acts of service. For some, the roles are full-time (including outside the bedroom), while for others, the roles are only taken on at predetermined erotic times. Gloria Brame, PhD, is a clinical sexologist, sex therapist, and best-selling author of Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission.

Spitting on your partner can be very hot for some and demeaning for others. Context can be key so discuss it first and avoid the eyes. • Bondage If you already have experience with BDSM and your partner does not, remember to meet them where they are and start at a slower pace. Wright suggests taking 101 workshops together or reading books about it and discussing it later. And before you get around to putting your knowledge to practice, make sure your partner is clear on the importance of consent and boundaries. Before getting started, let’s talk safety. Evidence suggests that 58.9% of males and 54.4% of female BDSM practitioners list bondage sex as one of their favorite BDSM activities. Additionally, a 2015 study investigating females in the kink community adds that bondage is a preferable activity, with more than 85% of individuals indicating they participate in bondage for sensual or erotic pleasure. Unfortunately, until the pandemic is in the past, the only way to have a threesome is to commit to having that person in your social bubble. A 2019 review states that BDSM can offer a safe space for people healing from trauma, PTSD, and abuse. Moreover, therapists may use practices such as bondage as a tool to help couples working on power dynamics. This may help couples experience relinquishing and assuming control in the bedroom before they do in other parts of their relationship. Improves sexual and mental healthThe sensory deprivation that comes with using bondages can be unsettling for beginners. Couples can begin by restraining one area, such as the wrists, then slowly easing into more advanced restraints based on their confidence and comfort. Add toys, props, and costumes There’s a world of dildos, vibrators, butt plugs and more to explore, with an ever-expanding list of things you can add to your toy chest – have fun shopping around with your partner to see what they like too. Watch porn together People practicing bondage sex may be at risk of physical injuries. In a 2016 study, more than 70% of participants report at least one accident from performing a BDSM practice, with hematoma being the most common injury. The study adds that injuries are more common in those who use drugs while performing BDSM sex. I grew up thinking sex was shameful,’ Monieau adds. ‘I didn’t even know what masturbation really was, but I knew it was bad. However, before you start your bondage fun, you need to talk to your partner. Don't just suddenly blindfold or gag someone with exploring the idea with them first, and I certainly wouldn't do both at the same time on the first occasion but try each one out separately.